Nebo D. Lukovich
Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is inside you. - Rumi
All concepts and ideas described in this article are based on the holographic principle as the premise. Here’s why.
A new theory in modern physics says that we are living in the holographic universe. It’s a mathematical idea examined thoroughly in string theory. According to it, we are 3D projections of a 2D reality right at the outermost edges of our universe. The theory is yet to be confirmed, but recent astronomical observations can be even better explained by the holographic model than by the standard cosmological model.
This leads us to the holographic paradigm itself, which is obviously entering the realm of science. Although the cosmological holographic model doesn’t focus on human scale, our individual reality could consequently be a hologram itself. More on holographic principle and its consequences to our lives you can find at this page. Nevertheless, if we apply the holographic view on our individual lives, it becomes clear that we must take absolute responsibility for our existence. That view tells us that everything around us is simply a mirrored image of our inner being. I would add here, the symbolical image.
 See article at Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holographic_principle
Honestly, my whole life absolutely confirms this idea. When you take the full responsibility for your life, you will soon see that everything around you is indeed a mirrored image of yourself. You are the only one who is in charge of your life, and that’s the most beautiful thing in the whole picture.
As we are parts of the universal hologram, everything around us tells us some important story about ourselves. What’s also important to know is that those stories are always conveying their messages in some sort of symbolical form.
That’s why we can find the deep symbolism in quantum physics and relativity. Moreover, those symbolic parallels to our everyday life can give us very practical and valuable advice.
Through symbolism, the quantum world tells us about the foundations of our existence as conscious beings and gives us some important clues on possible solutions to fundamental questions of our existence.
On huge scales, we have astronomy and cosmology. Relativity is also mostly seen as a part of physics that describes the inner workings of the universe at large scales. All of them are telling us about the bigger picture of our lives – about God, Good and Evil, about our personality, other human beings and other important big ingredients of life.
Now, let’s take a look at some of these thought-provoking insights.
Symbolism in astronomy
Space-time and energy
On big scales, the Universe consists of four main ingredients: space, time, matter and energy. Modern physics teaches us that space and time constitute one four-dimensional continuum called space-time, while matter and energy are also one entity – we can call it simply energy.
What is space-time? It’s a background of the whole stage. It’s the womb of energy and its countless forms. It symbolizes the Source, the primal foundation of consciousness and all its experiences.
On the other hand, energy symbolizes consciousness. Its denser form – matter or mass – symbolizes limited (localized) consciousness, while pure energy – or light – symbolizes unlimited, or all-pervading consciousness.
Stars and solar systems
Perhaps the most prominent features of the cosmos are stars. While the Milky Way galaxy can represent the whole humanity, stars can symbolize individual human souls. They are generators of light itself. Moreover, stars maintain innumerable life forms on their planets. They are also symbols of Good, Light and Joy.
Our solar system represents human personality. Consequently, planets, planetoids, asteroids, comets and all other sorts of celestial bodies that lurk around within the system – they symbolize innumerable parts of the human personality. In accordance with that, the well-known fact in psychology is that every personality consists of countless “bigger” or “smaller” parts or aspects. Each part has its own life, orbits around the sun, or has a specific “purpose.” The planets, asteroids and other bodies are frequently colliding with each other or ejecting the other bodies from their previous orbits, even from the entire solar system. This happens all the time with our own aspects of personality, too. They are often mutually discordant, clashing with each other, bringing us numerous troubles and failures in that way.
It’s interesting that the vast majority of stars are parts of binary star systems. Sometimes there are even more than two stars in a single system. Those stars, although normally very different in their size and type, are almost eternally tied to each other.
Stars are giving us a strong symbolic spiritual message: our souls are the sources of consciousness, very longevous, but still mortal. Our personalities, clustered around their souls, are stable only if all of their parts are settled within stable positions, in mutual harmony.
If the core of our being – the soul – is mortal, then what is immortal? Light. It is generated mostly by stars, but it’s not dependent on them. It's immortal and omnipresent. So, also in this symbolism, light represents our consciousness.
In ancient times, our souls were often born with their twin counterparts (as within the binary star systems). In most of these cases, our so-called twin-flames (or soul mates) are very different from us, yet are we linked by destiny.
However, you will see later that we can learn more on the nature of twin-flames from the quantum physics symbolism.
There is a pretty strict rule in the stellar world: the more massive a star, the shorter its life. Translated to our symbolic language, our souls have inherent egoistic inclinations.
Mass symbolizes human ego and its characteristic traits, such as pride, vanity, laziness, procrastination, limited perception, etc. Nevertheless, without their huge mass, stars wouldn’t be able to ignite the thermonuclear reaction within themselves, which is the source of their heat and light. Accordingly, ego is necessary for living in this world; it definitely has some important functions for our survival in this world – thinking, classifying data, prioritizing, and much more.
The majority of stars are the so-called red dwarfs, the least massive type of stars. But they live very, very long – for over 100 billion years. They die off slowly, transforming and swelling into the “red giants” and eventually disappearing, leaving a small “corpses” behind – the “white dwarfs.”
On the other hand, if a star is very massive, being, for example, the “blue giant” star, its radiation (emitted heat and light) will be extremely high, but the lifespan will be much shorter – even “only” a few million years. And if the star is sufficiently massive, it’ll eventually die through a huge explosion, as a supernova. What happens with its remnants – the dense core? It may become a neutron star, an extremely dense and hot “corpse,” or something even worse – a black hole.
This symbolism says: people with a “big ego” will eventually achieve a dramatic enlightenment (“supernova explosion”), but will also leave some dangerous remnants or deeds behind (“neutron star” or “black hole”). Also, people with a “small” ego will have many incarnations but eventually are not likely to achieve any dramatic enlightenment– they will attain the final liberation gradually and peacefully.
What are the opposites to stars? The black holes. They are the celestial bodies so massive that they suck in all matter in their vicinity. Even light itself cannot escape if it passes the purported “event horizon,” the ultimate dead zone radius. Black holes are the ultimate monsters. In our story of spiritual symbolism, they could represent the ultimate ego, vampires or the evil principle itself.
Nevertheless, every black hole also has its beginning and end. After eating all matter in its neighborhood, the black hole will eventually disappear through the purported “Hawking radiation.”
However, without black holes, galaxies wouldn’t exist at all. Being located in the galaxies’ cores, supermassive black holes are their gravitational foundations. Therefore, without black holes, there wouldn’t be any new-born stars that can be born only in galaxies. We wouldn’t be here after all.
Practical, symbolic meaning of black holes would be this: too much pride, egoism and vanity can eventually lead to forming a psychological vampire that sucks out life energy from people around him. However, without the dark side of human nature, humanity wouldn’t exist at all. Ultimately, it has a positive role to us: it’s forcing us to stick together, to grow and mature up into a better version of ourselves.
Time as the measure of limitation of consciousness
The theory of relativity undoubtedly says: massless entities (such as light) do not experience time at all. Conversely, if a massive body approaches the speed of light, the passage of time gets ever slower.
Symbolically speaking, when someone is fully conscious, time goes very slowly for them. When someone acquires absolute consciousness, time stops for them. Space does exist, but only in a form of four-dimensional continuum of space-time, experienced all at once, simultaneously and totally. The individual (if we can call them that way whatsoever) is infinite, omniscient, eternal and omnipresent. One could say – the “individual” becomes God Himself.
On the other hand, if a person is totally unconscious, time is infinite for them. When someone gets unconscious, either through sleep without dreams or in a comma, they instantaneously pass through time, into the future when they get on their feet, conscious again. They virtually jump into the future.
The one who is enlightened experiences omniscience, omnipresence, and timelessness.
Quantum physics’ symbolism
Quantum physics is probably the least intuitively understood branch of science, not only by ordinary people but physicists themselves. The natural phenomena observed on that level are so strange and fascinating, that they are the source of endless inspiration for both science and mysticism. Although the things and events at this level to our senses seem blurred and warped somehow, the quantum theory is one of the most accurate and successful scientific theories yet!
Double-slit experiment and the observer’s role
Subatomic particles’ behavior apparently depends on the presence of an observer. It has been proven by the astonishing Double-slit experiment, countless times. In short, the experiment involved shooting quantum particles through a couple of narrow slits, then examining where they hit the wall on the other side. It was revealed that the particles, when not being watched by any human eye (through a measuring device), formed an ‘interference pattern’ on the wall, just like a wave would do. But when scientists watched which particular slit the particles passed through, their trajectories changed and instead formed clumps on the wall, just like real particles would do.
The quantum particles changed their behavior depending on the existence of an observer. We can reformulate this conclusion to its most basic level: consciousness somehow subtly influences matter, at least at the subatomic level.
Is there such an influence on the macroscopic scale? Many quantum physicists think so. The so-called “Copenhagen interpretation” of the double-slit experiment’s results indicate this: in every single moment of our conscious existence we are “collapsing the quantum wave function” and choosing only one of the myriad possible universes that lie ahead of us.
Therefore, we are not some passive experiencers of reality. On the contrary, we are actively choosing our reality ahead and making it real. Still, all those possible lines of time are real in a sense, we could say, as “potential realities.” And these potential realities can be real to other conscious beings.
The double-slit experiment tells us, both directly and symbolically, that we are the creators of our individual realities.
The “Quantum entanglement” phenomenon, said by Albert Einstein to be a kind of “spooky action at a distance,” has marked the first real proof of the inherent, interconnected properties of subatomic particles. The experimental data involved separating two photons from one another—both of which came from the same parent group of particles, originally—and stimulating only one of them to watch what reaction came from the other. Surprisingly, the unstimulated photon would mimic the actions of its partner, maintaining an identical quantum state... as though they’d never been separated at all.
 See article at Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quantum_entanglement
For example, if one photon was influenced by a measurement and forced to change its quantum state (i.e. spin), the other photon would simultaneously change its spin the same way, no matter their distance, regardless of the speed of light limitations. And that’s said to be the case with all other quantum systems.
This phenomenon is a perfect example of the so-called quantum nonlocality. It can be described as the apparent ability of particles to instantaneously “know” about each other’s state, irrespective of the distance between them.
So, what does that suggest for all of us, considering that all particles in this universe were originally part of the same “one system,” starting with the Big Bang? The majority of the particles were separated and may have since lost their mutual entanglement, yes, but the notion still exists that virtually everything may still be profoundly linked. Could that not prove that we all are, too?
The “Quantum tunneling” phenomenon is being observed when a particle tunnels through a barrier that it otherwise could not pass through from the point of view of classical physics. Tunneling is, in fact, the consequence of the Heisenberg uncertainty principle and the wave–particle duality of matter.
This behavior of subatomic particles corresponds to some Sci-Fi concepts, such as teleportation or paranormal curiosities like bi-location and also teleportation.
Moreover, the quantum tunneling phenomenon teaches us how to behave in our everyday life, when we face an obstacle. Sometimes it will be enough just to be persistent, wait calmly and, to our surprise, we will pass through the barrier.
Two types of elementary particles
The main features of the quantum world are fields and particles. In fact, every sub-atomic particle is an excitation or fluctuation of its own field, which is omnipresent. We could say that every particle is a sort of “condensed” energy. However, there are two main types of elementary particles in the quantum world: the massive and the massless particles, i.e. those with the “rest mass” and those without it.
Massless particles are always traveling at the speed of light. That’s the only possibility for them. That also means that they do not “experience” time. Moreover, they are omnipresent, as space (as we know it) do not exist for them. That reminds us of God or absolute consciousness.
Mass is not an inherent, mysterious feature of an elementary particle. It’s a property given by the Higgs field. It gives mass to every massive particle, from the “outside.” It’s a kind of a dense “soup” through which all massive particles must pass along their ways. This reminds us of our existence – full of various obstacles, with a very limited and unstable consciousness.
On the other hand, massless particles, like photons (quanta of light), for some reason, are not impeded by the Higgs field. (That reason is well-known in physics and I’ll jump on it later on.)
Regardless the elementary particles’ responsiveness to the Higgs field, all of them are traveling at the speed of light. The only difference between the massive and massless particles is that the massive ones are impeded by the Higgs field. Although still traveling at the speed of light, they are actually “oscillating” at the speed of light within tiny boundaries all around them, imposed by the Higgs field.
As said above, according to the equations of Einstein’s relativistic physics, all particles traveling at the speed of light don’t “experience” time and space. From their “point of view,” they are everywhere, and the lifespan of the whole existence is within their “now.” In a way, photons have no speed at all.
In our symbolic language, light symbolizes God’s presence. It is the symbol of perfectly enlightened people.
Unlike the elementary particles, which do not consist of any sub-particles, complex systems like protons, neutrons, atoms or molecules are always impeded by the Higgs field plus by all four elementary forces of nature. So, we are too.
The role of Higgs field
Let us assume that we are genuinely symbolized by the massive elementary particle. It’s impeded by the Higgs field. How can we transform ourselves into the light? How to avoid the hampering effect of the Higgs field? Answers to these questions might be very important because they could give us some invaluable clues how to “become” light, i.e. how to acquire the final liberation, Nirvana, or whatever you call it.
Modern physics says that a specific type of polarization of particles is the main reason why some of them have mass and some don’t.
“They (massless and massive elementary particles) are the same, really. All particles are fundamentally massless. Those with a rest mass acquire it only via a constant interaction with a field which provides the energy measured as the rest mass.” - Matus Marko, https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-relation-between-a-massless-particle-and-particles-with-mass/answer/Matus-Marko?srid=ueliZ
“There is a fundamental difference between a massless and massive vector boson which is the number of polarizations that the particle has. Massless vector bosons only have two polarizations (transverse) which is why polarizers on sunglasses work the way they do. Massive vector bosons have three polarizations, the two transverse and a longitudinal. (…) The Higgs boson can only give three vector bosons mass.” - Jay Wacker, https://www.quora.com/Does-the-Higgs-Boson-give-photons-mass/answer/Jay-Wacker?srid=ueliZ
The massless particle, since it doesn’t have the longitudinal polarization, cannot “go back and forth,” since it would have to accelerate and decelerate.
Practical directions to liberation
There are two ways of converting the massive particle into a massless one: either through annihilation with its anti-particle or through the elimination of its longitudinal polarization. The former is happening all the time in nature, as well in scientific laboratories and colliders, while the latter is purely theoretical, at the moment.
Still, both approaches are inherently the same. Through merging with its anti-matter counterpart, the particle cancels out its polarization and consequently transforms into light.
If we translate this symbolism into a meaningful advice for our spiritual life, we would have to integrate with our anti-persona. What would that mean?
Does it mean that we need to re-unite with our soul-mate (or twin-flame)? Well, not really, although in the outer world that might help, if the person is really the twin-flame. But then again, the real solution is to remove the inner roots of our limitations. Deep inside our souls, there are particular polarities that are actively obstructing us to attain our natural state – absolute freedom. We have to accept and embrace the unconscious, “dark” part of our being, the “shadow self.” We also need to fully accept the opposite sex within us. We have to reintegrate all other fundamental, yet deeply hidden polarities of our personality (many of them you can find in my book “Deep Personal Transformation,” downloadable for free on Amazon.com, at this address).
However, if we reintegrated these polarities, wouldn’t we still have some “mass”? As the majority of the mass of complex entities, such as protons, neutrons, and atoms, comes from other basic interactions (strong nuclear force, electromagnetic force), wouldn’t we still have almost the same “heaviness” in everyday life?
According to this symbolism, no. If we had an imaginary situation of converting, for example, a quark into a photon, neither the strong nuclear nor electromagnetic force could exert any influence on that photon anymore. So, the particle would have become completely free. Meaning, when we reintegrate all polarities, we will achieve the liberation, we’ll get enlightened.
Easier said than done. Even after passing through the whole list of inner polarities that we are aware of, many of them will still be hidden from our sight. Hence, we need a comprehensive approach to our transformation. We need to continue with the work, to encompass many other types of inner obstacles, i.e. to deal with habits, limiting beliefs, negative rules, fears and other emotions, decisions, subpersonalities, etc. Being reintegrated one by one, these aspects of our being will allow us to become aware of many more subtle polarities that we hadn’t been conscious of before. And through the reintegration work itself, we will be naturally merging many of these polarities, too.
We can now conclude that the secret to liberation lies in merging the opposites within us.
We all want liberation in some way, whether we are theists or atheists, religious or not, inclined to science or not… We all need to be happy and to free ourselves from suffering. There are countless paths to that goal, but all of them must encompass a direct or indirect work on ourselves. Dealing with numerous parts of our being, like traumas from the past, bad habits, negative beliefs, fear, anger, sorrow…is inevitable if we really want the enlightenment.
This inner work is difficult, yet inspirational, sometimes even humorous. But we must be persistent. We can work with these parts directly, using many psychological or spiritual techniques, or indirectly, by determinedly focusing on our True nature (the pure consciousness or God, if you like), through meditation sittings, mindfulness or prayers.
All of these approaches are legitimate. However, each of them might be suitable for a particular type of people and their personalities. Yet, I firmly believe that we can help each other in that process. That’s crucial. I didn’t mention love in this text, but it’s present throughout it, even within the “cold equations” of mathematics or physics.
I also believe that there are so many hidden messages yet to be discovered in quantum physics or relativity, worth of our “symbolic translation” into many valuable pieces of spiritual advice. If you find any additional symbol that could help people in their spiritual or psychological transformation, not only within these scientific fields but also in other branches of human thought, please make a comment and share with us!
“There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” – Aldous Huxley
Can we really change our lives with positive thinking? Is it really as miraculous as its proponents are trying to present?
In its core, positive thinking is similar to auto-suggestion, hypnosis, and visualization. Why? Because it’s essentially an intentional flooding or bombarding the subconscious mind with various wishful contents of mind in a form of thoughts, pictures or emotions. Irrespective of the nature of that mind content, the process is the same: we are always trying to saturate our being with positivity while ignoring or suppressing any negative content.
What happens to our inner hindrances?
However, the negative thoughts or emotions will never disappear on their own. What’s worse, they are usually grouped in corresponding clusters, as every type of energy attracts the energies of a similar kind. These clusters, the so-called “pendulums” or “negative morphic fields,” behave as partially conscious beings with their own will and goals. As such, they will not accept their own demise. Being blocked or suppressed, they can withdraw for a while, but will fight back eventually. In that case, their subdued energy will be released abruptly, similar to a volcano eruption.
Here’s an example from my life. About 15 years ago, I made a decision to do a comprehensive auto-suggestion program through autohypnosis. I put on paper all my main goals at that time and collected many suitable, well-intended suggestions for my subconscious mind. I was determined to transform my life completely. And I did, but it was actually a painful, yet sobering experience.
I was very determinate and tenacious. My self-hypnosis work was thorough and persisted for 3 or 4 months. It was enough for some results to appear. I noticed a few big improvements in my life, both in the spiritual and material aspects (although I now know it cannot be separated that way). I was thrilled. But, after a while… a disaster stroke… one, two, several of them, in different areas of my life. I had troubles at work, health problems, I was broke and, above everything else, my girlfriend left me. The setbacks were huge, almost unbearable.
Regardless all these difficulties, I continued with my autohypnosis practice, but things were sluggishly improving. I wondered what was wrong with my practice. And something was wrong, definitely.
Suddenly, during one of my long walks, a deep insight came up to my mind: my autohypnosis practice didn’t solve my already existing fears, victim identities, false beliefs and other self-defeating structures. All these positive infusions did work for a few months, but in fact they only covered and suppressed my negative subconscious structures. As those structures must express themselves sooner or later, they erupted, one after another.
I immediately stopped my autohypnosis exercises and switched to regular psychoanalytical and NLP work on my problems. Of course, it demanded a big deal of time, but it really paid off. I solved most of my inner obstacles at that time and started over my whole life.
Although I have never turned back to my autohypnosis practice, I am sure that it’s a great methodology. However, it’s missing one critical ingredient: facing and reintegrating the inner obstacles. Yet, this work has paid off itself: it rapidly accelerated the process of facing the inner problems. I was forced to solve them, one by one.
The same assumptions stand for the general concept of positive thinking, including creative visualization, auto-suggestion, subliminal messages, and other similar practices. They all have a great approach to pointing the subconscious mind at the right direction, but they are missing the other key aspect of inner work: dealing with the subconscious negative parts of personality and solving them. Without it, they will ultimately lead us only to recurrent painful experiences which roots are still there – within us.
Nothing is really wrong with positive thinking. It indeed attracts positive experiences in our lives and is definitely worth practicing. Nevertheless, without the other part of transformational work – facing and reintegrating the negative subconscious elements of inner being – it could become very dangerous. Forcing the positive thinking alone in the long run will undoubtedly trigger many suppressed negativities which had been forgotten.
 For more info on this subject please check out http://www.re-integration.com/morphic-fields1.html
Therefore, working with achieving goals or manifesting desires must be accompanied with a comprehensive approach of reintegrating all the opposing unconscious structures within our mind. Such a comprehensive approach might be accomplished through psychoanalysis, transactional analysis, gestalt therapy, or other branches of psychology, including some “fringe” methodologies, like the Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). If you don’t strictly adhere to scientifically acknowledged methodologies, you may use spiritual practices, such as meditation sittings, mindfulness, Kriya yoga, Samyama, etc.
However, I would like to recommend here several Reintegration protocols that will surely help you in such a practice: Dissolving the Temporary I (DTI), Moving to the Heart (MH) and Dissolving the Temporary I Plus (DTI+) techniques. They are described on this website and you will gain enough information to successfully reintegrate back into your being many negative thoughts, emotions or other aspects of your personality.
In the first book of the Reintegration Fundamentals series, “Inner Freedom Techniques,” you will find all the Reintegration techniques thoroughly explained, including the revolutionary technique called “Inner Triangle,” which is used for solving the most rigid problems. Moreover, in “Deep Personal Transformation” (available on Amazon for free at the moment of writing this article) you will find all the necessary information on the subconscious negative structures and concrete ways how to deal with them successfully.
And if you desire for achieving concrete, big goals in your life, you can consult the third book in the Reintegration Fundamentals series: “Coherence.” It covers all the Reintegration techniques and methodologies for a safe goal achievement process, without any side-effects. Finally, the most comprehensive volume, “Inner Peace, Outer Success,” covers all the Reintegration techniques and explains the whole system.
Good luck in your work!
Removing the Roots of Lying
Nebo D. Lukovich
What is a lie? To answer that, we have to know what the truth is in the first place. Are we talking about the real truth or just an information about some person or event? Information about the truth can be conveyed, but the very truth can only be experienced. Therefore, lies are hiding or distorting the information on the truth.
There is no absolute honesty. To achieve that, we would have to be a completely enlightened being. Such a being lives in the Truth and doesn’t have to lie at all. Their life is the Truth and everything around them always mirrors that inner Truth. It’s not always pleasant, though, but it’s always the Truth.
Yet, we are not the enlightened ones. Or at least I am not. So, we do lie. And we will inevitably lie from time to time. We live in this material world, in these bodies with severely limited perception. We don’t recognize the Truth. We are just receiving and filtering streams of information about the world outside and our inner reality as well, all the time.
However, the most important thing on this subject is that we must be honest with ourselves. Always. That’s the precondition for outward honesty.
Are there situations that really demand lies?
The holographic principle teaches us that our surrounding is always a projection of our inner world, in a symbolical way. People around us are always playing different roles corresponding to particular inner parts of our own personality. Therefore, when we are lying to someone, it’s a projection of our fears, anger, desires, beliefs, habits or other aspects of our being.
When we lie to somebody, even if it’s a “white lie,” we are lying to ourselves. That person is a symbolical projection of a part of our own being, demanding an answer. It wants the truth about something. The part has probably been long suppressed and now emerges onto the surface of our being.
The outer communication in which the lie has emerged is a result of relations between the inner parts of our being. One part is asking for the truth, and another is trying to hide it. The relationship in the real world symbolically mirrors the inner conflict.
What is the morality of lying?
The question of moral behavior is certainly of a great importance in any psychological or spiritual system. If we had acted immorally, that action will generate suffering in the long run. Let me cite a few sentences from “Inner Peace, Outer Success”  here: “Immoral conduct inevitably produces remorse inside you, at least on a subconscious level. It also yields resentment in others. Remorse and resentment generate anger and suffering. This will result in major setbacks to your work on yourself and in your life generally.”
 “Inner Peace, Outer Success” by Nebo D. Lukovich, Reintegration Publishing, 2016, https://www.amazon.com/Inner-Peace-Outer-Success-Reintegration-ebook/dp/B01KD221D8
In some life situations, we are indeed forced to lie. There could be a variety of possible reasons for such behavior, many of them being legitimate. For example, if our very survival or the survival of our loved ones has been compromised, sometimes we will be forced to lie. Nevertheless, we have to avoid lying and use it as the last option.
As said in the above-mentioned book, “Moral behavior is a matter of pure decision and firmness, assisted by Love, Presence and Reintegration techniques. Whenever you find yourself on the verge of immoral conduct, if you feel a temptation to act dishonestly, bring yourself into the state of pure Love. It dissolves dishonest inclinations, anger, resentment, fear, pain and other negative emotions at their roots.”
Another great way to discern whether a situation really demands some sort of a lie is to enter the state of Presence. We have to involve mindfulness.
Presence is a state of being here and now, aware, usually without thoughts. Generally speaking, surroundings that demand lies are disturbing and stressful. In such cases, it’s very hard to stay calm and enter the state of presence. It’s even hard to remember that we need presence. However, for each individual, there are always several characteristic circumstances that are challenging. And they are generally recurrent. Therefore, we can introduce triggers for launching the state of presence to find the best way of behaving and facing the situation.
You can find many pieces of advice on the triggers for presence in “Inner Peace, Outer Success,” as well as in several other blog posts here.
 “Inner Peace, Outer Success” by Nebo D. Lukovich, Reintegration Publishing, 2016
What if we find ourselves in lying?
Don’t force yourself to stop lying in the middle of a conversation. It may seem awkward to your companions and can put you in a more unpleasant situation. Instead, continue with talking, and just become aware of everything you say, your body and your surroundings. Accept the situation wholeheartedly. Try to be present, to be mindful. If you succeed in that, even for several seconds, that will probably be enough to transform your behavior and communication. You will either stop lying or continue with it but in a totally different and more benevolent way. Entering the here and now is the key.
How to deal with our lies from the past?
We should deal with our lying in a serious way only if the lies are repetitive and/or harmful, to us or others. Such lies are telling us something important – we have to deal with our own suppressed and unresolved emotions, identifications and other parts of our personality. Those parts are trying to express themselves, this time through lying.
Keep in mind that such aspects of our being are not bad at all. They are just seeking to protect us with this behavior, although in an unsuitable way (check out the Chain of Goals – a gradual process through which an initially well-intended aspect of our being becomes an ill-behaved part).
As said before, the process of lying to another person is a projection of the conflicts between the inner parts of our personality. So, after each unpleasant dialog in which we behaved inappropriately, whenever we have some spare time we should revive the memory of it and thoroughly deal with our deeds. How to do that?
Evoke the conversation as vividly as possible and use the Dissolving the Temporary I Plus (DTI+) or Gentle Touch of Presence (GTP) techniques on it. Do that as many times as you can.
Even better solution is to apply an extremely efficient Reintegration technique called the “Inner Triangle.” It is a technique that involves reintegration of two opposite parts of your personality, in this case – two parts that represent your and the other person’s standpoints in the conversation. Eventually, those parts will merge and attain their highest state of existence – the unity with Divine. That way, your particular problem or immoral behavior has been uprooted and solved forever.
 More on this technique you can find in “Inner Peace, Outer Success” or “Inner Freedom Techniques” (check out this page: http://www.re-integration.com/book-excerpt-inner-peace-outer-success-re-integration-system.html)
Whenever you can - avoid lying, even at the price of suppressing it temporarily. That’s much better than to commit the immoral deed and regret it forever. Such a suppressed deed you will be able to handle later anyway with various Reintegration procedures or other psychological or spiritual techniques. On the other hand, an expressed big lie or another immoral deed would have produced remorse, resentment, anger and pain in yourself and others, which would be much harder to overcome later.
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