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Time Travel and Consciousness

27/11/2016

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Nebo D. Lukovich
Learner, Reader, Student of Life...

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In theory, if you were traveling exactly at the speed of light, time would stop for you completely. Moreover, if you would be traveling faster than light, you would be traveling backward in time!
Time travel is possible. And it’s achievable both “physically” and “mentally.”

First, let us examine time travel in a physical sense, when a traveler uses some sort of physical means to move their selves (including their body) through time, at will.

According to the relativistic physics, it is definitely possible to travel into the future at a rate which is faster than “normal” (let’s say the normal rate is 24 hours a day). You should simply travel through space at the speed near the speed of light.

“Physical” Time Travel

For example, you are traveling with a spaceship to the nearby star which is 10 light years away, at a speed very close to the speed of light. When you get to your destination, say, in 1 year of your travel, you will realize that you are almost 9 years in the future. And going back to Earth, traveling for 1 additional year, you will realize that your twin brother is now 18 years older than you! And the “rate” of traveling into the future depends only on your actual speed.

In theory, if you were traveling exactly at the speed of light, time would stop for you completely. Moreover, if you would be traveling faster than light, you would be traveling backward in time!

The main problem to achieving near-light speed is this: your mass is ever-increasing as you are getting closer to the speed of light. More and more energy should be consumed for acceleration. For reaching the exact speed of light, you should need an infinite amount of energy. That’s why you will never be able to travel at that speed, not to mention traveling faster than light.

We are still in theory. The particles of matter do have some “rest mass,”[1]  while light particles (photons) have zero rest mass. Time for photons is standing still, i.e. to “them” there is no time at all. Everything is simultaneous from “their point of view.” Therefore, if we could somehow erase our rest mass, we could perhaps be experiencing our whole individual existence (the past, present and future) simultaneously.

Hypothetically, there could exist a very strange sort of particles, the so-called “tachyons.” Their rest mass is an “imaginary number.”[2] They probably don’t exist whatsoever. It’s interesting that they would always travel faster than speed of light and, which is even more bizarre, they would be traveling backward in time. So, to continue with this extremely speculative string of thoughts, if we could, by some means, convert our “normal” mass into the imaginary mass, we would be traveling backward in time.

Some theoretical physicists postulate another way of traveling through time – by enormously wrapping up the space itself. To achieving that, humanity would have to develop very advanced technology which would allow us to built space ships with the so-called "warp drive", or to create “wormholes” in the fabric of space-time. Currently, nobody knows how that can be accomplished, but that may change in the future.
Some theoretical physicists postulate another way of traveling through time – by enormously wrapping up the space itself.
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​Although most of the mainstream physicists would disagree with me, I believe that many of these speculations could actually be feasible one day, in a society which is enough technologically advanced.

However, these speculations are only related to a time travel conducted in a physical sense, like a physical travel through space. There could also be another way of traveling through time – using consciousness only.

Are time journeys within mind possible?

There are many accounts of visions, hallucinations and other vivid experiences of both past and future events, experienced by specially endowed people, that have been confirmed as being pretty accurate. Even many more of such intense visions have been dismissed as complete illusions or hoaxes. Were they hoaxes?

These inner visions are very slippery ground for anyone trying to derive some reliable conclusion that it’s possible to see the future or past events. However, there is a point of view trying to explain that some of the apparently false testimonies of future or past events, are actually true. But first, let me describe some unconventional vantage point on this subject, which is still in accordance with recent advances in theoretical physics.
Our consciousness is moving steadily along the fourth axis of the space-time chart. This is actually giving us the impression that everything is changing.
​Our consciousness and relativistic time

In accordance with the theory of relativity, time is interchangeable with space within the space-time continuum. In a way, time is only the fourth (or first) space dimension in that continuum. Our consciousness is moving steadily along that fourth axis of the space-time chart. This is actually giving us the impression that everything is changing. We are moving along that time axis and everything else around us seem to be moving as well.

For example, if you wanted to describe the very basics of the event when you eat an ice-cream last time, you would have to assign three coordinates of space to it. It happened in a point of space that had its precise longitude, latitude and altitude. But, that's not enough. It must have an additional value: the time when it happened. Thus, it is described by four coordinates. Modern physics tells us that these four coordinates are inter-changeable. They are equivalent.

So, when we have a series of mutually connected events, like moving a car from point A to point B, we actually have countless mini-events, each being described with its own four coordinates in the space-time continuum. And when we have a non-moving car on a parking slot, it seems that we now have a completely static situation. No, it's not. It is still moving, through the fourth space-time coordinate, through time.
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​Now, note this: as an observer of that seemingly static car, you are also moving through the fourth dimension - time. From a deeper point of view, the only entity that is moving along this fourth dimension is the observer, you.

That seemingly steady translation of our conscious focus, which is happening along that single coordinate of space-time, is deeply ingrained in our subconscious. Although there are many other dimensions and countless possible universes, this particular fourth-dimensional space-time continuum is static per se.

Therefore, all events that “happened” in our “past,” from the perspective “outside” of this space-time continuum, actually exist simultaneously.
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Quantum theory and timelines

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We are not some passive experiencers of reality, we are actively choosing our reality ahead and making it real. Still, all those possible lines of time are real, we could say, as “potential realities.” 
​Yet, things are even more complicated than all of this. We are not only living in a “block universe” which is static from the 4D perspective; it seems that there are countless real or potential “block universes.” Quantum physics tells us that, in every single moment of our conscious existence we are “collapsing the quantum wave function” and choosing only one of the myriad possible universes that lie ahead of us.

So, we are not some passive experiencers of reality, we are actively choosing our reality ahead and making it real. Still, all those possible lines of time are real, we could say, as “potential realities.” These potential realities are also part of the whole picture. Some other beings might be going along those potential timelines, but they are real to those beings, as our timeline is potential to them.

Not only that, there are innumerable potential timelines behind us, as possible past events that could lead us to this here-and-now reality. We are aware of one timeline only, to which our memory is tied (except in some cases of the so-called “false memories”). Therefore, the whole picture is far more complex than to looking at “simple” 4D relativistic continuum.
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Individual timelines

Now, here’s the catch: different people may have different past or future timelines! Each of these timelines is fully real to every person involved in it, while all these timelines have led all those people to the same or similar present moment (but remember: individual experience of the present time can still vary drastically). Therefore, they can remember completely different events of the same time span, yet they can still be in the same “present universe,” where their timelines merge or temporarily intersect. Their future timelines can also be very different.


Correspondingly, different people can visit their individual or collective past or future (within their minds), and yet those events can be totally dissimilar, but true to any of them.
 Different people may have different past or future timelines!
​However, we cannot say this is a common case for sure. People are often inter-connected in their lifetimes because of their corresponding personality traits and lessons to be learned from each other. But those people that we only hear about from the newspaper or some TV show – their timeline can easily diverge from ours, and they may have completely different experiences of past or future individual and collective happenings. Apart from many intentional hoaxes, this can be explanation of numerous descriptions of vivid and detailed future/past events that never happened, given by some apparently mentally healthy people.

What would happen if someone influenced their own past?

Every single time-traveler will influence his/her own past, whether they physically traveled to the past and “killed their granddad,” or were just observing some past events. Remember, quantum physics is very clear about this: the very act of observing influences the behavior of the observed phenomenon, i.e. the nature of subatomic units changes from quantum waves into particles.[3] Everything is interconnected, so are observers and observed things, too.

Therefore, even the mere act of observing enacts some influence to the past event. In this way, the event has been changed, however tiny that change is.

So, in both cases, either through being physically present in the middle of some past event, or just through observing it, we would influence it. That means the time-travel paradox is the problem for both occasions. How to solve it?

There is no real paradox here. A time-traveler who would end up in the past and stayed there would have created an entirely new timeline. But it’s only an individual “bubble reality,” as it is the case with all of us. A time-traveler who would just observe some past occasion would also create another timeline, but it would probably merge with the “parent reality,” soon after his/her returning to the present.
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​Practical notes

How can we intentionally move our consciousness along that “time coordinate” at all? What is the secret?

Some of the “visionary” people I mentioned above, the so-called clairvoyants or seers, are endowed with some secret “element” incomprehensible to us, common people. What is that?

The secret lies in our deep, subconscious attachment to this body and mind. Our body physically belongs to this cause-and-effect material universe and its physical laws, and its five senses virtually anchor it to this stream of experiences called “time.” Additionally, we are also identified with our minds and its countless thoughts, emotions, memories, beliefs, habits, etc. Those attachments make very dense veils that cut us away from a wide-ranging inner knowledge, including information on past and future, as well as on the other timelines as well. We can call them the veils of ignorance. In this case, they cut us off from our inherent abilities to move along space-time coordinates at will. However, the veils have their purpose in our lives. Without them, the “game of life” wouldn’t be possible at all.

What are these veils of ignorance, causing our total immersion into this very real „illusion”?

Basically, they are our misperceptions or unawareness of various layers of Reality. They are directly connected to our identifications, beliefs and other elements of personality, described in the Reintegration System. We think we are something else than we truly are. In fact, whatever we think we are, we are wrong. It can only be that we just are, as opposed to the notion that we are something or someone. Every single identification contributes a little bit to our immersion in this world of illusion.
Our various attachments make very dense veils that cut us away from a wide-ranging inner knowledge, including information on past and future, as well as on the other timelines as well. We can call them the veils of ignorance. 
So, if we want to remove those veils, we must release our desires and fears, habits, emotions, thoughts, and many other parts of our personality. The best way to do that is to reintegrate them in a non-aggressive, benevolent way. 

Luckily, these veils are usually being released spontaneously, through the reintegration of various elements of personality, layer by layer. And if they are not released yet, we also treat them with non-invasive meditative or psychological techniques, like all the other elements of personality.

If we are uncertain which element to deal with, we just have to look around us - the outer world is a projection of our inner universe. The holographic principle [4] will impeccably lead us along this path.

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​As our work continues, our consciousness will be expanding, while unconscious limitations are being dropped away progressively. The reintegration work will be resembling the art more and more, as the mystery of life unfolds in most surprising and beautiful ways.

The main result of such an extensive inner work can be one’s spiritual growth or enlightenment, while time travel and other extraordinary abilities can only be side-effects.


[1] Rest mass is an inherent property of elementary particles. It is the mass of a particle when at rest (its velocity equals zero).

[2] In mathematics, an imaginary number is a number that when squared gives a negative result. (If you square any Real Number you always get a positive, or zero, result. The "unit" imaginary numbers (the same as "1" for Real Numbers) is √(-1) (the square root of minus one), and its symbol is i, or j.
Source: www.mathsisfun.com/definitions/imaginary-numbers.html

[3] The best example of this behavior is the well-known “Double-slit experiment.” For more information, see article at Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double-slit_experiment

[4] Basically, the holographic principle says that each part of an entity contains complete information on the whole entity. Accordingly, within every human being, as a part of the Universe, there is complete information about the Universe. Similarly, the same correlation is between one's inner and outer reality.
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Genuine Teachers... Can We Recognize Them?

22/11/2016

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Nebo D. Lukovich
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“The best teachers are those who show you where to look, but don't tell you what to see.” ― Alexandra K. Trenfor

People who present themselves to others as spiritually evolved have enormous responsibility over many lives. They are usually in a position to be giving various practical advice and offer spiritual leadership, so if they are impostors, that could ruin the lives of their followers. And their own lives also. Unfortunately, there are too many deceivers in this field today.

The danger of misleading spiritual guidance

The most obvious motive of these impostors for deceiving others is gaining material benefit, as “spirituality” has become huge business today. But there are certainly other reasons as well: they can temporarily satisfy their ego and vanity; they try to suppress their feeling of inferiority; or they are sometimes even split personalities.

Although their practical advice on dealing with numerous kinds of life situations can really be helpful occasionally, the subtle background of their instructions is flawed. Therefore, even if their directions were correct, people who listened to them would, at the deeper level, sense the fundamental inadequacy of their guidance and would often subconsciously undermine their own subsequent actions based on that guidance. The results are almost always unsatisfactory, sometimes even disastrous.

How to recognize genuine spiritual teachers?

Luckily, there are quite a lot of authentic spiritual leaders around. How do they behave? What are their recognizable traits?

Genuine spiritual teachers must be the best examples of their own preaching themselves. They ought to be genuinely benevolent, conscious beings, in contact with their True nature. Hence, their spiritual messages must be stemming from that inner Truth. They can impeccably point to the direction which is just right for us.

First, they are almost always calm and peaceful. In their daily life they are honest and humble. You can feel their benevolence and kindness, they simply radiate love. They don’t talk about themselves. They never boast about anything. They are not rude or unkind to people around them. When we are in their presence, we spontaneously become peaceful and confident.

If a person prefers to be our guide, and we know nothing about their everyday life style, we just have to calm down and feel their presence with our inner body. If we don’t feel an increasing and overwhelming inner peace or love, if we can’t relax in their presence even if they are seemingly kind to us, then they are not genuine, at least for us at that moment. We have to withdraw and find another teacher.

For example, you want to ask a spiritual teacher how to deal with a concrete problem. You are close to them and feel confident and peaceful in their presence. You feel their benevolence. That’s the sign for you to trust them. If you suddenly felt fear or anxiety in your belly while thinking of the issue itself, don’t retract. It was simply your pain, not some sensing of the teacher’s delusion. Go ahead and ask. Trust them, their directions will enable you to solve your problem.

However, don’t expect them to be absolutely perfect. If they were perfect, they couldn’t exist in this material world at all. They would apparently disappear from this material plane, as their frequency would be too high for it. Thus they all have some imperfections, some flaws that anchor them to this world of inertia and matter. Whether held on purpose or being simply neglected, these inadequacies are typically insignificant, almost unrecognizable in ordinary lives of those genuine people. They also have their inner struggles, but they are still completely honest and determined in their path.
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We can definitely believe such people. Yet, the whole responsibility for our life lies upon us. They can only point to the ways in which we take that responsibility. Meanwhile, we shouldn’t forget that we are the best teachers to ourselves. All the right knowledge is within us and the external teachers and guides are simply manifestations of our inner Truth. We must be honest to ourselves and the world outside will be honest to us.
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Reintegration Therapy for Broken Families

17/11/2016

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Geomaria George  

Advocate of Right to Happiness


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Broken families, lead to a broken system and a broken world. With one-third of the American teenagers threatening to kill someone and one out of every 200 girls (aged 13 to 19) cutting themselves, estranged children have become the mark of the evil.  
The family is the first stage to rehearse for life. If familial bonds lack love, trust, respect, care and support, children turn their life into a game of vengeance to gain love, trust, respect, care and support from around.
 
Where do you each stand in each other’s hearts and eyes?How does your family interact with each other? Do you spend quality time with each other, is do you talk in the Morse code?

To alleviate the distress and frictional aura between family members, the first step is to sit together and share silence with each other.

If you find it difficult to talk, write down the happiest and the saddest memories you have of each other. Now, share these memories with each other.

The goal is to reconnect with your family to identify the uniquely common grounds you hold with one another. If you feel awkward about talking to each other, availing the help of a counselor as your third party will help you get started.

When do you need Reintegration Therapy?

As the natural tendency to leave things to resolve on its own is renowned for being a sedentary feeling among broken families, you must row against the flow to heal your ruptured family to become one again.

Symptoms of Broken bonds are not easy to miss or ignore. Behavioral issues like shouting, anti-social remarks, violence and lack of interaction with each other are the direct effects of estrangement amidst family members. The lack of bonding can be a cause of custody-disputes as well as work-shifts that make it impossible to interact with one another.

Ways to Re-integrate with your Lost Family 

Alienation can lead to long-term emotional dysfunction as well as the poor perception of reality. Estrangement is often directly catalyzed by interpersonal misconceptions too. Reintegration therapy advocates diagnosis through love than detention or punishment.

·         Dealing with Conflict
Apart from literal separation, children can be estranged from parents due to their confusing growth reactions, misunderstandings, pseudo-maturity and ideological differences. The solution is to hunt the source of the problem and uproot the misconceptions by sharing the confusions and fears with each other.

·         Believing in Each Other
Often the lack of self-esteem is the first reaction to having no familial bonds. Self-hatred is the next step that happens to alienated family members. The best way to counteract this is by discovering each other by believing in their deepest convictions.

·         Providing Practical Support
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Yet another significant emotional bonding technique that most of us ignore is distancing from our family’s problems unlike the joyous occasions. Parents must share their problems with their kids and en route, strive to notice and resolve the issues that their kids face too.

Before you go …  

Investing in each other with love is the centripetal force behind therapeutic reintegration. If you yearn to do so with your family, begin by listening, empathizing and devoting to each other in order to establish that you’re always available for the other, no matter what!
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Voyaging from a bumpy bond to one filled with love would be difficult, yet healthy a transition that will cultivate a loving relationship with your family once again!

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How to Deal with Immature, Stubborn or Spiritually Unconscious Beings

16/11/2016

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Nebo D. Lukovich
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We are encountering various immature, stubborn or spiritually unconscious beings all the time. They can be little children, animals or even grown up people with mental or emotional issues. Although most of the time these interactions can be lovely and amusing, they can also turn out to be extremely challenging, as these beings are ignorant and don’t care much about our expectations or socially suitable behavior.

If we find their behavior unacceptable, we might try every possible known method of persuasion, we may try to talk with them, entice them or anything else, to no avail. They will continue with the same or even worse conduct.

In many cases, we are tempted to react inappropriately. We can become desperate, get angry, even aggressive. But that certainly doesn’t help at all. The child, or our lovely pet, acts defensively and the situation gets worse. Whatever we do, it doesn’t help. They simply cannot understand us. Even if they understand the language itself, they don’t get our point or simply overlook it.

What can we do after all?

There is a “classical” solution, which we will label here as being a short-term solution. There is also a meditative approach, based on everyday mindfulness and being fully present and attentive in the company of those stubborn beings. And finally, there is a simple, often overlooked solution, but the ultimate one: to root out our own unconsciousness.
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Short-term solution

​So, the first strategy is the short-term one: we must be very patient and careful in our conduct, applying carefully numerous patterns of responses, which are proven to be most suitable in such situations.
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There are tons of psychological, pedagogical and other material out there covering this field, so I will not elaborate much on that here. I put them all under the label “short-term solution”, not wanting to offend countless hardworking scientists and enthusiasts. This label simply means this: by doing this way and being persistent in that, you will probably improve a lot the asocial behavior of your loving, but unconscious being. However, you will not solve the root of the problem – there will always be some more annoying, unpersuasive and stubborn persons popping up in your life. They all will be different and new, but you will have to do your “homework” again and again.
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The reason is simple: you haven’t solved the inner source of the problem. Yourself.

Long-term solution

A long-term solution is to practice mindfulness and loving-kindness in these challenging relationships. Mindfulness is the practice of living consciously in the present moment. If we want to live mindfully, we should be aware of every emotion, thought, every motion of our body, sensation, texture, sound, taste and smell. From time to time, we should pause and direct attention to our sense of self. All the time we should sustain that state of self-awareness during every activity. Most of this also applies to the challenging relationships with various beings.
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Being mindful in a company of an annoying person or animal who is deeply unconscious of their unacceptable behavior means to be fully attentive in their presence, without thoughts, receptive and non-reactive. You cannot persuade them, nor convince them to do anything you would like them to do. You cannot influence them directly, only indirectly, with your own inner peace. Your stillness will spread onto them sooner or later, but you must be patient, it won’t happen instantaneously.
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Another part of this approach is the loving-kindness. Simply put, you have to open up your heart completely to those beings. You have to accept and love them as they are now. You have to love even their annoying behavior.
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Mindfulness in this kind of relationships, combined with loving-kindness, if applied persistently, will gradually yet fundamentally change your whole life. It’ll radically transform the problematic relationships, and, in a subtle way, those beings themselves as well.

However, this approach is difficult to maintain and it’s advisable to employ it with another method, which is based on the so-called holographic principle. Let me elaborate more on that.

Ultimate solution

Is there an ultimate solution? Yes, there is. In this case, it is a very elegant one, but don’t think it’s a kind of magic wand. No. It’ll also require some inner work and taking full responsibility for your life.

The baseline of this approach is the holographic principle. It's a principle applicable in many areas of science and human behavior. Basically, it says that each part of an entity contains complete information on the whole entity. Accordingly, within every human being, as a part of the Universe, there is complete information about the Universe. Similarly, the same correlation is between one's inner and outer reality.[1]

The world around us is a strange but relentless mirror. All people in our life are playing some role to us as symbolic “projections” of our particular traits. Of course, I’m not implying that other people are not real, or that they are just reflections from our mirror. They are as real as us, as any animal or thing. But we are involved in their individual, unique universes the same way they are involved in ours. Any person or thing of significance to us unconsciously plays a role in mirroring our own internal universe, just as we do theirs.

On that basis, we can derive the following deduction: all unconscious beings that interact with us are external projections of unconscious parts of our own being. This implies that those little children or cute pets behave exactly in accordance with our inner unconscious patterns. When we become aware of these patterns and reintegrate them back into our consciousness, the corresponding fellows around us will inevitably change their conduct, too.
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We must ask ourselves: What is my hidden personal trait which corresponds to this behavior? We have to be absolutely open-minded and honest with ourselves. There is surely some pattern, probably hidden in our past, buried deeply into our subconscious, which emerges from time to time projected onto our external world as the annoying and stubborn fellow in our life.

When we find this particular trait or traits, we must not fight them. That would only suppress, even strengthen them more. Instead, we have to reintegrate them back into our personality. There are many methods of doing that, and I would recommend here the Reintegration techniques. Of course, there are many other great sources out there, for example, the books and teachings of my favorite spiritual author, Eckhart Tolle.

Finally, when we reintegrate a particular subconscious pattern, the outside world will adjust to the new situation: the behavior of our little fellows will be completely transformed in such a way that we will be deeply surprised with it.

Combined approach

After all, the combined approach is always the best solution. It is very advisable to do the reintegration work regularly on hidden parts of our personality, while being mindful and loving toward those beings at the same time. We should work on ourselves, rather than keep trying to change the external people or circumstances. When we change our inner world, the external reality will follow that, slowly but inevitably.
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The key to every challenge and every pleasure is always within us.

[1] It seems that modern science is also going toward the holographic idea. A lot of groundbreaking research has been done in the last couple of decades in the fields of neurology and psychology, showing striking correspondence with holographic principle, especially related to memory and other functions of the human brain. Moreover, the holographic model is also emerging in theoretical physics, particularly in string theory. For more information on this principle you may refer to: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holonomic_brain_theory, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holographic_principle or to Michael Talbot’s remarkable book “The Holographic Universe” (Harper Perennial, New York, NY, 1992).
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How to Overcome Self-Sabotage

9/11/2016

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Nebo D. Lukovich
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There could be various causes of self-sabotage. For example:
  • Self-defeating or limiting beliefs about that particular activity or life in general, such as: I'm vulnerable; the unknown is dangerous; I should not take the risk; life is unfair; I'm not good enough; I’m not worthy; life is hard; I am a victim in my life; I have no happiness in life; no one should be trusted; no pain, no gain; the rich are unhappy, and many, many more.
  • Self-defeating decisions that you made in the past, most probably during your childhood, such as: I will be quiet; I will always obey; I won’t do it anymore, etc.
  • Fears, for example: fear of the unknown, of failure, of success, of criticism, of ridicule, of change, of responsibility, of death, of loss, etc.
  • Self-sabotaging habits, such as procrastination, autopilot behaviors, emotional isolation, and so on.
  • Rules, both orders and prohibitions. They can be externally imposed rules - most often from our parents, other authorities, or peers during early childhood; or self-imposed rules, which are usually consequences of traumatic events. Examples of defeating orders from parents: Shame on you! Obey when I say something to you! Eat! Hurry up! Don’t trust anyone! Do not cry! You should be like him/her!
  • Traumatic memories that are subconsciously connected to the goal that you want to achieve.
  • Other negative emotions, such as anger, grief, annoyance, disgust, etc. Even positive emotions can hinder your goal if their particular striving is not in harmony with it.
  • Guilt, resentment and accusations.
  • Lack of self-confidence and self-worthiness.
  • If your goal is not coherent with your personal traits that are commonly considered as positive. For example, honesty can hamper your desire for wealth, if you have a belief that rich people are not honest.
  • If your goal is not in accordance with any of your desires or other important goals in your life.
  • If your goal is not clear and precise.

How to determine the cause of your self-sabotaging behavior and remove it?

  • By contemplating your goal and the self-sabotaging behavior, through logical thinking and searching for connections between various events, behaviors, involved people and above mentioned possible causes.
This is the most unreliable method, since it depends on logical thinking. Therefore, you often will not be able to reveal real subconscious obstacles with this approach.

  • By probing your goal using this procedure:
    1. Relax completely.
    2. Enter the thoughtless state of Pure consciousness or Presence, using any suitable meditative technique suitable for you (for example: the Total Acceptance meditation).
    3. Feel and visualize your goal, as it was accomplished. Try to keep that as long as possible.
    4. Sooner or later some distractions will enter your mind, like thoughts, emotions or bodily sensations. They are the expressions of your real, subconscious obstacles to your goal! You must dissolve those distractions one by one, until you are able to keep the goal in your mind for a longer time (which is your subjective estimation).
 
  • By using the so-called Determination Technique (DT). Basically, this protocol gathers all negative perceptions (beliefs, rules, fears, emotions, etc.) related to the goal and removes them with a simple procedure called the Dissolving the Temporary I Plus (DTI+).

The basics steps of the Determination Technique are:
  • We get these negative perceptions by asking ourselves two questions: “Could I fail?” and “Is there any reason why succeeding could be bad?”
  • During the DTI+ procedure (that you should repeat five times each circle) you first remove a negative perception, then you install an opposite, positive perception (belief, rule, decision, emotion, etc.) that you need to formulate properly, immediately after getting the negative perception.
  • When you eliminate negative perceptions, and install their “antidotes” in these two circles, you then continue to the last step of installing the positive statement: “I am absolutely and completely determined to achieve this goal” through the so called Moving to the Heart (MH) procedure.
  • Then, you repeat the whole cycle until you cleanse yourself from all negative perceptions related to the goal, while subsequently installing the opposite, positive mind content that pulls you directly toward the goal.

These are the three basic ways in which you can remove most of your self-sabotaging behaviors and traits. However, some of them will be so deeply ingrained in your subconscious that you will need much more comprehensive approach, dealing with many of the above-mentioned types of inner obstacles. For those cases, again, you can refer to the Reintegration System, but there are also numerous great psychological or spiritual techniques that can be found on the Internet or within the professional literature.

One more tip: regular sitting meditation and mindfulness will surely help you, not only with the self-sabotaging issue, but also with all other aspects of your life.

Good luck with your inner work!

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