A Few Valuable Tips for Life

Author: ​Nebo D. Lukovich

Learner, Reader, Student of Life

Nebo D. Lukovich

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​Dear friends,
 
Here are some ideas or suggestions which, although they do not cover all areas of life and are not universal, in my deep conviction could be truly precious for your life.
 
Conscious Presence
 
Strive to live consciously in the present moment. This does not mean that you should neglect planning or reflection, on the contrary – everything you do should be done with full awareness of yourself and that which you are doing. We can call such an approach “conscious presence” and it will bring you deep inner peace and efficiency in everything you do.
 
For example, when performing daily or routine activities, be aware of yourself, your body, the environment, and the present moment as often as possible. Be here and now. Feel your body, the movements of your arms and legs. Observe everything around you without judging. Notice the small details, look at them as if you are seeing them for the first time in your life.

Everything you do should be done with full awareness of yourself and that which you are doing. 

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​Whenever you walk, be aware of the movement of your legs and arms. Watch your feet rhythmically touch the ground. Feel the ground under your feet.
 
When you are at rest, become aware of the pure, empty space that is in you and around you, that stretches infinitely in all directions, as the basis and bearer of everything that exists. Pure space everywhere. This will quickly bring you into the alpha state of consciousness, i.e. a state of deep peace. Then focus on your breathing. Observe the airflow inside you. Feel the air as it passes through your nose and trachea and fills up your lungs. Follow its way back. Relax and do not change the rhythm of breathing. If a thought pops into your mind, simply go back to observing your breathing.
 
Whenever you enter the present moment, you will also enter a state of calmness and relaxation. Even better, if you persevere in this practice you will become increasingly immune to stress. Moreover, for seemingly no reason, you will enter periods of deep inner peace and unspeakable joy more and more often. You will be more efficient in everything you do.
 
You will have fewer and fewer unnecessary thoughts. Unwanted feelings and reactions will subside and will gradually integrate into the wholeness of your being. Conscious living in the present moment will have a beneficial effect on your life as a whole. People around you will feel it, many will improve their relationship with you, while unpleasant people will spontaneously leave your life.
 
All these beneficial changes in your life will happen as a result of applying the other tips in this text as well.
 
 Gratitude
 
Develop gratitude in your heart. It is one of the key and noblest feelings, extremely important for your inner peace, stability in life, and spiritual development.
 
No matter how difficult or unjust life may seem to you, you always have countless reasons to be grateful. For example, you can feel gratitude for your existence, for your body, health, family, friends, for any seemingly small pleasure or smile that someone has given you… Feel gratitude for anything. The feeling is important, not the reason.
 
You can send gratitude to God, angels, or dear people, although it does not have to be addressed to anyone - just feel that feeling.
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 Challenges
 
See all of your inconveniences and problems as opportunities to learn certain life lessons.
 
Face the difficulties immediately, without exception. Think of them as challenges and opportunities for your growth.
 
Try to look at any uncomfortable situation from a broader perspective. That trouble will also pass and you will emerge stronger. Always keep in mind that, after all, everything is an illusion and that the real, true existence is on higher, spiritual levels. In fact, the only true reality is God, that is, Infinite Consciousness. Everything else is fleeting. And even though it doesn't seem that way to you now, this world is an illusion.

Face the difficulties immediately, without exception. Think of them as challenges and opportunities for your growth.

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​When something upsets, angers, saddens, or hurts you, take the opportunity to address the challenge without delay. Immediately focus your attention on that feeling within you - anger, fear, pain, sadness, resentment, shame, etc. Sense in which part of your body that feeling is located, where you feel it the most. Accept that feeling completely, with love. Take a deep breath. Strive to enter the present moment through that feeling. Ask yourself, "What important message is this feeling trying to convey to me?" "Who am I who is hurt (sad, angry, scared, ashamed)?" Forgive yourself and that feeling. Apply the Accepting the Temporary I (ATI) reintegration technique. Become aware of the trigger (probably a person or event) that stimulated that feeling in you and forgive, accept… Again, apply the ATI technique to that trigger as well.
 
When you are facing a problem or concern, you should first look at all the facts about that situation. Create the worst-case scenario that may result from it. Fully accept that worst-case scenario! Then you work on improving and correcting that scenario, based on the collected facts while working on yourself in terms of finding the cause of the problem in your own being and strengthening your self-confidence.
 
 Love
 
Work continually on growing love in your heart. One such session – let's call it loving-kindness meditation – may look like this:
 
First, think of a being who immediately awakens the most tender and wonderful feelings in you – it can be your child, parent, life partner, pet, etc. Feel love towards that being as much as possible.
 
Then direct that feeling towards yourself. Send love to your body, your mind, your Higher Self, your whole being. Become aware that you deserve all the best in life.
 
Next, direct your love to the outside world - to your loved ones, to colleagues at work, to people around you, to people who cause you problems, to people in your city, to all humanity, to all beings on Earth, to Mother Earth, towards the Sun, the Galaxy, the Universe, all beings that exist, towards everything that exists, towards God…
 
At the same time, feel that your heart is opening for the love of all these beings. Be love.
 
Love heals, love is deeply beneficial and, alongside forgiveness, it is the most sublime state in the universe.
 
Forgiveness and Acceptance

Forgiveness is extremely important. When you forgive, it does not mean that you justify or approve of the other person's mistakes, but only that you get rid of the burden of your own anger and resentment that is chewing you from within and damaging your health and happiness.
 
When you forgive, remember that what was done to you was not actually done by that person, his true being. That event was simply an expression of the unconscious in humanity, the unconscious that more or less exists in each of us and that was expressed through that person.
 
Next, ask yourself: What part of me is hurt? Or: Who am I who is hurt? The answers can be, for example, the one who always wants to be right, the proud one, the one who is better than others, the one who constantly experiences some injustice, etc. Become aware that you are not really that person. Remember that only the illusion of what you think you are is offended, your false self. Your True Self is of an infinite, divine nature.
 
From that perspective, imagine that the person who hurt you will forever remain as they are now, that they will do to you and others forever what they are doing now. Imagine that they will never change, that they will never want to rectify themselves and… forgive them! If you succeed to forgive despite all that, you have truly forgiven.
 
When you accept something unpleasant, imagine that it will forever remain as it is at the moment, and accept it as such! If you manage to accept it despite all that, then you have truly accepted it.
 
People you have not forgiven will continue to come back into your life until you truly forgive them. What you have not accepted will continue to return to your life until you fully accept it.
 
If you allow yourself to be drawn into a spiral of resistance and resentment, those situations and such people will return to your life in an increasingly difficult and demanding form. You will suffer more and more until you completely give up. In such a situation, at the peak of suffering and pain, spontaneous and complete acceptance often occurs.

People you have not forgiven will continue to come back into your life until you truly forgive them.

However, it is much better to avoid this path and face all the challenges in life in the right way in time.
 
Opponents
 
In the last part of this text, you will find something more about the holographic principle applied to spirituality and psychological work. This principle, among other things, implies the following: every person who is annoying, difficult, or problematic for you, is actually your best teacher in life. Unconsciously, they bring to light your own traits, beliefs, decisions, and other aspects of your personality that you have pushed into the unconscious part of your being in the past.

Every person who is annoying, difficult, or problematic for you, is actually your best teacher in life. 

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​Ask yourself: What traits of that person bother me the most? What is her / his behavior that hurts me? Let these insights guide you in discovering the causes of the discomforts you are experiencing from that person. Causes that are in you! You are the source, consciously or unconsciously. Take responsibility for your life!
 
In that sense, if you have enemies, know that they are ultimately your best friends. Let this be one of the reasons for you to forgive those people more easily, not because of them, but because of yourself.
 
Criticisms
 
Don't take criticism personally. Accept them as compliments, because when someone criticizes you, it means that you are doing something good and important. Feel gratitude, accept and forgive, follow the voice of your heart, and smile at that person or situation.
 
You should never tell others that they are wrong. You will probably be met with resistance and misunderstanding, so you will only get the opposite effect. Instead of criticizing other people, always praise their good actions and qualities. Only in this way you can exert some gentle, yet positive influence.
 
If you still feel that it is necessary to reprimand another human being (say, to somehow help a dear one to correct herself in something), you could begin by praising her for something, while including some criticism on yourself, too. You can continue such a conversation with the words, “Maybe I'm wrong, but do you think you could consider more facts about it?” If you don't do that, the criticism will most likely be rejected, often with anger.
 
Also, you could praise her so as she behaves exactly the way you would like, i.e., as if she already has such a virtue. This is the only way you have a chance for your dear one to gradually change and eventually embrace that trait or behavior. If it is a decision or idea that she should accept, mention it occasionally in your conversations, in a non-compulsory tone. There is a good chance that ultimately the person will accept the idea. She might even think that it is in fact her conception; she could even start propagating it to other people as her own idea.
 
Inner Work

Dedicate at least half an hour each day to psychological or spiritual work on yourself. It can be meditation, prayer, relaxation, tapping, psychological work on yourself, reintegration work, reflection, visualization, autosuggestion, autohypnosis, energy work, conscious breathing or a combination of these practices.
 
Habits
 
Each habit consists of three parts: a trigger (a characteristic event or a person who activates it), a routine (behavior that is a main attribute of the habit), and a reward (anything a person seemingly gets as a result or a byproduct of a routine, and it is usually pleasant).
 
The easiest way you could get rid of a bad habit and form a new, better one is by replacing the middle part of the habit – a harmful routine – with a useful one, while retaining the same triggers and rewards, with a help of visualization and autosuggestion.
 
Everyday Life
 
Strive to live in accordance with ethical norms and principles. If you are unsure of the rightness and ethics of a decision you need to make, ask yourself if the best, highest version you are striving for would do so.
 
During work, rest regularly and take breaks. In this way, you will break the chain of negative emotions that lead to fatigue and stress. This is particularly true for your workplace, especially if you are dissatisfied with your job. Before you get tired, do a couple of cycles of deep, conscious breathing. Then do relaxation – start with all the muscles of the eyes, continue with the neck and shoulders, and then with all the other parts of your body.
 
Grounding and Connection to the Universe
 
Try to establish a strong and intimate connection with Mother Earth. Imagine a beam of energy that connects you to the center of the Earth, through which the planet continuously supports and feeds you with strength and stability, while at the same time it absorbs any negative energy or discomfort. This link with the Earth can simply be called “grounding.”
 
Imagine that the people around you are also grounded, that is, connected to the Earth in the said manner. Occasionally visualize such beams of energy that connect the center of the space (rooms, houses, buildings) in which you live or work with the center of the Earth.
 
In a similar way, occasionally visualize the beneficial beam of cosmic energy that connects with you from above and that connects you to the Sun, the Galaxy, and the entire Universe.
 
Grounding will calm and stabilize you in any situation, while visualizing a connection to the Sun or the entire Universe, it will give you extra-strength and creativity in everything you do.
 
Conversation
 
When meeting someone, pay full attention to that person and their name. Repeat her name as soon as you hear it, and then repeat her name a few more times during the conversation. This way you will easily remember the name of that person, and leave a strong and pleasant impression on her.
 
You can start each conversation that can be problematic with a few questions to which the other side will answer "yes". This should not look forced or artificial. Prepare well in advance and then start the conversation in a light and relaxed atmosphere. Also, ask him what he expects from you, and then ask what he thinks you should expect from him.
 
Always show interest in the story of the interlocutor and his life. Listen to him carefully. That way, you will normally get his or her affection, but you should not be calculated in that, but act from the heart.
 
Holographic Principle
 
I have deliberately left the consideration of this principle at the end of this text so that it can also serve as a summary and the most important message.
 
I will not explain here why I believe that the holographic principle is in a symbolic sense one of the most important principles in the life of each of us. I have written about this in some other articles and texts. I have personally been convinced of its truth countless times.
 
In essence, this principle tells us the following: the external world is in a symbolic sense only a reflection of our inner being, its both conscious and unconscious parts. It is for this reason that the holographic principle is of paramount importance: we are the source of everything we experience. We are responsible for our lives!

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External world is in a symbolic sense only a reflection of our inner being, its both conscious and unconscious parts.

​​So: take responsibility for your life. You are the source. When you accept that, you will regain the hidden power that you once lost a long time ago. You will radically change your life.
 
I hope that these tips will help you alleviate the problems you may have and contribute to truly transforming your life.
 
 
Have a nice day! :-)