Author: Sarah Davies
Virtually anything can become an addiction. Whether the object of your affliction is a chemical substance or a disruptive behavior, it can easily be considered an addiction when it’s keeping you from freely experiencing the happiness and health that you deserve. If you fear that you or someone you love may be beginning to suffer from the effects of an addiction, it’s time to be proactive in creating a better future.
1. You Feel an Overwhelming Need
There are certain things that everyone should feel an overwhelming need for. Things like food, water, the love of their family, and success in one’s career should inspire these feelings. If you feel an overwhelming need for something that’s counterproductive and stops you from accomplishing the goals you feel driven to accomplish - it may be time to adjust your perspective. Spend some time alone, think about what you do, meditate and identify all the negative addictions that are stopping you from achieving your goals. Only then can you truly start to break free.
2. Your Thoughts Feel Disruptive
Meditation is vital for a healthy mind. We all need to be able to let our thoughts pass us by from time to time. It reduces stress and helps us appreciate the great things that lift us up. If you can’t meditate without disruptive or intrusive thoughts about your potential addiction, this is a red flag. You deserve to have peace of mind.
3. You Can’t Budget Anymore
Addictions are often tough on the wallet. Money often causes stress in people’s lives, and that stress is intensified when a significant portion of the monthly budget winds up being allotted towards an addiction. This is money you could be spending taking a weekend camping trip in the mountains or having brunch with your closest friends. Don’t let the addiction stop you.
4. Your Home Life Feels Unfulfilling
Addiction has a tendency to isolate us from the people we love. Home should feel like a sanctuary, whether you live with your family or live on your own. This should be a place where you can grow, reflect, flourish, and share the company of others with similar aspirations. When home doesn’t feel the way home should feel, it could be a result of the presence of addiction oppressing what should be a comforting environment.
5. Your Career is Suffering
Individuals living with addiction often see a decline in career performance, particularly because of the damage that mind altering substances can cause. If you always envisioned yourself in a higher level position with enough money in savings to take a vacation abroad every year, no addiction is better than that opportunity.
6. You Feel Yourself in Toxic Relationships
Addictions often involve a significant amount of networking. Addicts need to know people who can help them feed their addiction. These acquaintanceships are superficial, and the people who maintain them are deprived of the ability to learn and grow with likeminded individuals. In fact, it is only with the people that truly love and respect you that you can create the kinds of friendships that make the world go round - and those are the ones that everyone needs.
7. You’re Breaking The Rules You’ve Set for Your Life
Addictions take us far off course. We’re all dreamers to an extent – that’s how we plan our futures. Everyone has deep aspirations, and some people want to go as far as changing the world. Anyone who is devoted to their dreams can make great strides in achieving them when they’ve lifted themselves free from the burden of addiction. It’s a lot of weight to carry, and dropping that weight makes the world feel limitless.
If you feel like you might be affected by addiction, it’s never too late to take action. The sooner you target and resolve your addiction, the sooner you’ll find yourself back on the right track of living your life to the fullest.
Many people just don’t like meditating in a sitting posture, as they prefer a horizontal position instead.
Some practitioners also want to meditate or practice mindfulness in every possible situation and bodily posture, from sitting to lying in bed, to walking, to exercising, and even to sleeping. Here you will find some ideas, backed with great feedback of numerous practitioners, that might be helpful to all of you wanting to meditate even while lying down.
But first, why should we do the meditation in a horizontal position in the first place?
Benefits of Meditation Lying Down
There are so many benefits. As all other types of meditation and mindfulness, this kind of practice will bring you:
These are not claims, these are the facts. They have been confirmed by countless scientific researches and explorations, and you can check it out on the Internet and numerous scientific magazines.
Lying Down Meditation as Preparation for Sleep
One of the most reliable methods that can lead you to a conscious and deeply relaxing, rejuvenating sleep is Yoga Nidra. It is an ancient practice which can bring you exquisite results.
One of the most reliable methods that can lead you to a conscious and deeply relaxing, rejuvenating sleep is Yoga Nidra.
Nidra, which means “yogic sleep,” is a meditation that deals with deep sleep consciousness. During this meditation, through which you are typically guided by an instructor, you are scanning your body and entering a very deep state of relaxation. During this process, your body will slip into a deep sleep, and yet your mind will remain fully aware.
How to Meditate in Horizontal Position
First, if you are tired, do not close your eyes, as you will dive into sleep soon. If you feel fresh and energized, and still don’t want to, for example, do a walking meditation outdoors, then you may close your eyes.
It is advisable that your lying posture is similar to the ‘savasana’ pose in yoga, which basically involves lying down flat on the back with your palms facing upward.
Author: David Beeshaw
Going through addiction treatment may be the hardest thing that you have ever done, but it will all be for nothing if you can’t get back into normal life afterwards. Many people find it difficult to make the transition, and this can lead to relapses as well as other problems. Here are some tips to help you make that transition smoothly, and to take control of your life again.
Start during treatment
The first stage begins while you are still undergoing your treatment. Think about how you are going to cope with life on the outside without your addiction. Learn to recognise the signs of an imminent relapse, and how to control yourself at those times. Think about your triggers and figure out how to avoid them – and what you will do when confronted with them. Try talking to your friends and family about the support that you will need on the other side.
Take it slow
Don’t expect things to be easy right from the start. A transition is a gradual process, and you can’t rush it. The pace of life may be different from what you are used to, and you may find yourself with free time now that you no longer have your addiction to swallow it up. Don’t expect to be able to go home, see the same faces and go to the same places where your addiction ruled, and be able to resist right away. Start with the safest environments and work from there.
One thing that you may wish to do is to make amends for the things you did while you were addicted. It might be that a simply apology is enough. It might be that you need to work, pay, or make up for things in some other way to make everyone happy. The important thing is that you close the book on that chapter of your life by making amends for everything in it. If you are still feeling guilt over things you have done, reintegration therapy and meditation will really help to let go of that guilt and start over. If you let the guilt remain, it will only damage your future.
Replace your addictive habits
In order to get back to normal life, you might actually have to create a new normal. The people and things you did before might not be suited to a recovering addict, and so this means starting again. Find new friends who are not addicted, and who will lead you in a healthy direction. Take up exercise or a new hobby which can fill your time. You could even take up charity work if you wanted to pay back to society. Make sure that you eat and sleep well so that both your body and your mind are healthy and well rested. If faith helped to get you through your treatment, then now is a good time to recommit to your faith, perhaps by taking part in faith groups.
Make new goals
Part of normal life is moving forwards. Make some new goals for yourself, either to do with your fitness, your career, your hobby, or so forth. These goals will give you something to work towards, and when you feel that relapse is near, it may help to focus on these and how much you would be throwing away if you gave up now.
Getting back to normal certainly isn’t easy after addiction treatment, but it is far from impossible. With a support network, a positive outlook, and plans for moving forward, you can do it.
Author: David Beeshaw
David Beeshaw is a health blogger who dedicated his time and efforts to help people dealing with HIV and STIs. A part of the team at raTrust, David often writes about psychological problems and stigma those at risk of STIs face and deal with.
Drug addicts often don’t want to admit that they have a problem. Until they do that, they cannot enter treatment or successfully overcome their addiction.
In most cases, addicts' denial is covered by a multitude of excuses, which you will need to destroy if you want to get through to them. Here are some of the most popular excuses you will hear from drug addicts in denial, together with some ideas on how to overcome them.
1. I’m only hurting myself
This is a form of self-sabotage, and it’s also a lie. Addicts will say that their behaviour only affects themselves, and if you are a member of their family or a loved one, you will know it’s not true. Addicts can hurt everyone that cares about them, and if their behaviour descends to the level of crime, they will be hurting others too. Explain how much you have been hurt by their actions so far to counter this excuse.
2. I can quit any time
This is such a common excuse that it has become a punchline. Make a challenge: if that’s true, ask them to quit for just one week to prove it. Their failure to do so will be something you can use next time they say this – and if they succeed, then they may end up going clean long-term.
3. I’m under a lot of stress
Addictive behaviour can often be triggered, or worsened, by traumatic or stressful events. However, due to the nature of addiction, it’s not likely that things will ever get better while they are using. Explain to them that there are other, healthier ways to deal with stress, and that you are willing to try those methods out with them.
There’s no law of physics that hasn’t been transcended. In the end, the only law is that there is no law. - John Wheeler, theoretical physicist
Modern science has reached the point where it is inquiring the very foundations of the universe. Was it created by a conscious creator? Or did it simply pop out from nothingness, by a mere chance?
There are countless debates now whether the physical laws of the universe are finely tuned to support biological life or not. There is a good reason for that: they indeed seem to be tweaked for life.
As you probably know, many laws of physics are deeply dependent on various constant numbers that are parts of equations describing these laws. Those numbers are called the universal constants – the speed of light (c), gravitational constant (G), electric constant (ε0), Planck's constant (ħ), the mass of an electron (me), two parameters of the Higgs field potential, etc. Moreover, there are also even more fundamental constants that are dimensionless (i.e. not dependent on the unit system used to express the quantity). Those are, for example, the fine-structure constant (α), which defines the strength of the electromagnetic interaction between elementary charged particles, or proton-to-electron mass ratio, or the cosmological constant, which is the density of dark energy in the universe, and so on.
There is a strong notion among scientists, backed by many extrapolations, that if any of these universal constants were only slightly different, the Universe wouldn’t be supportive of any kind of biological life. For example, if the gravitational constant were smaller, the stars couldn’t be formed. If it were too large, the stars couldn’t survive or their life span would be much shorter, so in either case, life wouldn’t be possible. Similar conclusions can be deduced for all other universal constants.
If any of these universal constants were only slightly different, the Universe wouldn’t be supportive of any kind of biological life.
One of the solutions could be that we live in a multiverse, consisting of a huge or even infinite number of universes, each having different internal laws of physics.
Hence, the possibility of the emergence of a universe out of nothing, which is suitable for biological life and/or development of conscious beings, is practically equal to zero. There must be a conscious creator of this world.
Or is it so?
One of the solutions could be that we live in a multiverse, consisting of a huge or even infinite number of universes, each having different internal laws of physics.
Author: Lucy Taylor
Lucy Taylor is an avid blogger who enjoys sharing her tips and suggestions with her online readers. Working as a legal expert at LY Lawyers, Lucy often helps people dealing with legal problems, addictions and crime. Follow her on her Twitter @LucyTaylor1981.
Here’s how to spot when an addict is about to relapse – and how to help them out.
Addiction is a lifelong burden to bear: an addict in recovery believes that they will never truly be cured. They can relapse at any time, and without personal diligence and a good support system, many addicts do fall victim to this. Here’s how to spot when an addict is about to relapse – and how to help them out.
1. Change in mood
If someone’s mood suddenly changes, and especially if they are experiencing mood swings, this could be a key sign of internal conflict. Not only that, but sudden stress and irritability could lead to them seeking a return to their old addiction in order to feel better. Irritability, secrecy, and sudden bad moods are key signs to look out for. If you spot those signs in an addict you know, try talking to them about the cause behind their mood change to see if you can help alleviate the source.
Irritability, secrecy, and sudden bad moods are key signs to look out for.
In a normal, “waking” state, we are almost always completely immersed in whatever we are doing at the moment. We might even say that we are fully absorbed in here and now.
However, If the point of mindfulness is to be here and now, doesn’t that mean that we are meditating every time we are completely immersed in some activity? Whenever we exercise, play football, listen to music, watch TV, talk with our friend, think, or even fight – we are fully in the present moment, right?
The tricky question
Thinking this way, can we say that activities which typically consume our attention are also a sort of meditation?
Well, no. We are lost in such activities. Usually, we are totally absorbed in playing the game, listening to music, exercising, whatever…and we have become that activity. Our consciousness is focused completely on it.
Moreover, the answer to the previous question also depends on how we define meditation. Let’s use the broader meaning of meditation, that includes mindfulness. It means that we are meditating here and now, whatever we are doing, without any redundant contents of mind, aware of our surroundings and ourselves. When thoughts or emotions arise, we simply become aware of them, let them go and return to the Now.
Can we say that activities which typically consume our attention are also a sort of meditation?
To live in the Now means to live consciously, to fully experience ourselves and our surroundings without redundant thoughts and distractions.
One could say that deep sleep is also a thoughtless state. That’s true, but it cannot be regarded as the living in the Now because it is not a conscious state.
One could also say that while we are immersed in unnecessary thinking, we are in the Now too because we are experiencing those thoughts in the present moment. But that is also not a fully conscious state, as we are identified with those thoughts, so it’s not really being present in the Now.
There are many situations where you are trying to relax, meditate, of focus on a serious task, but fail to even begin with it, due to numerous distracting thoughts usually mixed up with unpleasant emotions. If you find yourself in this state of mind, struck by a continuous avalanche of thoughts and emotions, you can apply this simple method: pick up only one physical sensation that you are sensing at that moment, and concentrate on it. You will calm down immediately.
Usually, only 10 to 20 seconds of such focused attention will be enough to calm your mind and relax your body.
Pick up only one physical sensation that you are sensing at that moment, and concentrate on it. You will calm down immediately.
Now let us pass through an example of a real situation.
So, you are thinking now about some problem. Various thoughts are coming and going, grasping your whole attention, engaging and even possessing your whole being, moment after moment. You have identified with those thoughts and emotions completely and have forgotten of all else around yourself. It lasts for minutes, perhaps even for hours. Being overwhelmed with the problem, you can’t relax, can’t get enough rest and sleep. Simply put, you are unaware of your unawareness.
Suddenly, you are finally becoming aware that you are thinking too much, out of balance, out of here and now. You are seizing that moment immediately and deciding to calm down and become mindful. It is not a problem because you have this effective technique at your disposal.
Conspiracies do exist. There are many governmental or non-governmental entities which jobs are tightly related to hidden activities. Secret agencies, cover-ups, industrial espionage…those things definitely exist, with many secret agendas accompanied with them.
However, many people believe in a more sinister, universal conspiracy. They are sure that all of us are monitored and even controlled by some super-secret, completely hidden para-governmental organizations or even alien beings.
When you delve into these teachings, you will find that they are sometimes very persuasive, filled with countless examples and logical connections. But there are simply too many of those theories. When you compare them, you will inevitably find their mutual inconsistency or even total disagreement. What’s wrong? Unfortunately, they are typically driven by human inner flaws.
The two main forces that drive people toward conspiracy theories are curiosity and the victim mentality. There is no doubt that curiosity is a positive thing. Nevertheless, in this case, it may lead you to facing your own victim mentality in its worst form.
Why are Some People Attracted by Conspiracies?
I don’t want to judge people. All these assumptions and conclusions in this article are more or less general. However, in my experience, people who believe in some sorts of conspiracies are not always mentally stable and realistic. Here’s why.
The problematic roots within human nature that lead to immersing into conspiracy theories can be boiled down to the following behaviors and traits:
Victim Identity and Rejecting the Responsibility
Let’s consider the victim identity as one of the main causes of accepting the conspiracy theories. Similar conclusions can also be derived for the ego-play and mistrustfulness.
Imagine trying to live without air. Now imagine something worse. ― Amy Reed, Clean
Almost all of us have one or more friends who have suffered from addictions. Whether it be drugs, alcohol, or something else, those are often very sad stories full of extreme hardships and adversities, not only for those who are direct victims of the addiction but to their whole families and friends.
What can we do about it?
Apparently, as individuals, we cannot do much, but every honest contribution to this battle is still extremely valuable when we consider the harshness of the consequences of these behaviors.
However, the joint approach is vital in this field. We must unite our efforts if we really want to make a change on the global level.
But what are we fighting against? What or who are our enemies? Can we fight them outwardly or is that an inner battle? What are our goals in that battle, and do we have the tools for achieving them?
And finally, should we talk about fighting or inner transformation?
What is an Addiction?
First, we have to be clear what is an addiction per se. We can define it as a compulsive behavior which is expressed through seeking and using various substances or engaging in various activities that are often detrimental to one’s psychological or physiological health.
In accordance with that, we can say that there are two basic types of addictions:
We are all aware of the gravity of substance addictions. But we must not underestimate the seriousness of the behavioral addictions too, as all compulsive behaviors are deeply engraved into the neurological structure of our brains and have strong habitual forces behind them.
All compulsive behaviors are deeply engraved into the neurological structure of our brains and have strong habitual forces behind them.
In order to get a deeper understanding of those forces and why people are so prone to relapses of old addictions, we should take a look on numerous invisible background energies.
Spiritual View on Addictions
The highest states of Being (Peace, Joy, and Love) have their degraded forms: Love in its degraded form is infatuation or obsession; Peace in its degraded form is drugs and alcohol; Joy in its degraded forms is sensual bodily pleasures. Through addictive substances or behaviors, people are actually trying to achieve, at least temporarily, these highest states of Being. Sadly, by using the wrong means and while having many misconceptions and limited views on reality.
Addictions are entities that are conscious to some extent and are very cunning.
But there is another aspect of this problem, which is often hidden from our knowledge. These addictions are entities that are conscious to some extent and are very cunning. Here’s how.
Like attracts like. Positive energies or things attract energies or things of their kind, and the same stands for negative energies. Pertaining to human personality, negative energies and experiences tend also to coalesce into an ever-bigger energetic entity. We call these entities morphogenetic (morphic) fields or pendulums. And yes, there are such fields linked to every addiction. They exist and grow in individuals, groups, or even in the whole humanity, on a collective level. They are living beings, with some level of self-consciousness and even intelligence. Normally, we are not aware of their existence at all, due to our severely limited perception of reality.
Energies and experiences tend to coalesce into an ever-bigger energetic entity. We call these entities morphogenetic (morphic) fields or pendulums. And yes, there are such fields linked to every addiction.
The morphic fields have a strong tendency to survive and grow. They feed on energies of their similar kind. When they are “hungry” (with low energy level), to get enough “food”, these entities will always try to induce positive or negative psychological states or external events (depending on their own nature), as they feed themselves with the same sorts of energies.
In this case, we must deal with addictions. Obviously, they have very “negatively” oriented energies in their background.
What’s very important, we must not directly fight negative morphic fields, as that will only give them an additional momentum, and that’s the reason why we can call them pendulums.
One of the ways to stop the pendulum’s swinging is to be present during its activity and consciously ignore generated negativity, something like being transparent. If we were persistent each time in this, that specific morphic field will finally abandon our individual life.
There are countless types of morphic fields. For example, there are morphic fields of every family, a group of people, sports clubs, societies, organizations, companies, countries, nations, state administration, schools, religions, animal species, specific human behaviors, emotions of all kinds, diseases, and so forth. So, there are also very strong morphic fields of addictions, too.
As said before, they are cunning and seductive in their striving to achieve their goals. They often induce specific accidents and stressful situations or use people in the person’s surroundings and even his or her friends to incite the addictive behavior or to re-establish it again.